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Hearts and Mimes

Person A, Person B

Person B dislikes person A for various reasons and is normally cold/distant around them. Person A feels neutrally about person B and would prefer more neutral relations. Person A and Person B don't see each other very often.

Person A spots person B, instantly recignises them, and moves up to them with a (forced-but-apparently-genuine-to-person-B) warm/friendly hello. Person B gives an instant warm response back before fully recognising person A.

Might we expect that warm response to build "emotional credit", in person B's mind, to person A, and also might we expect people's dislike for rapid shifts in the tone of a conversation cause person B's short-ish interactions with person A be pleasant, providing more emotional credit too? Could some of these, perhaps paired with other things, be usable to change person B's impressions?

Conventional wisdom suggests that people like and dislike each other for logical reasons. This is at least half wrong, I think.

Do autistics fail turing tests?

Truth is like a box of chocolates, and humanity is a dog.

Research funding: In a world where we knew how much money it would take to develop cures to various diseases, would we concentrate these funds to curing one at a time (assuming perfect scalability of research), understanding that illnesses can be deadly, debilitating, and affect different groups of people? How important is a feeling of progress versus actual progress, and is how we understand that changed by the possibility of changing political winds? (all these people begging "Fix my illness first"... and wild shifts in funding as differet lobbyists reach different people). Broader question: priorities in society, being a decent person/society, funding NASA versus medical research versus food shelters, all concurrently at different levels.

Craig Street Coffee (SELECT EAT UNIQUE) has rather good hummus wraps, but also still has that really irritating mentally ill girl.

With a bit more planning than I normally do, my tablet with its ministers of power and information and internal affairs can all fit in my laptop bag. w00t

Trying to think about random bits of advice/foundational perspective I'd pass to my younger self or someone like them I met now (maybe shows ways I've changed):

  • People are fascinating. Human behaviour is really interesting, as are the way people percieve themselves, each other, and the world. Common knowledge on these matters is often quite wrong
  • People lie to themselves all the time automatically, from the basis of our perceptions to much higher-level things
  • Neurology is really really interesting, as interesting as computers are
  • Don't neglect yourself or your needs. Don't pretend they arn't there, or they'll mess you up.
  • Be more wary of structure and logic, investigate their origins, consider them in light of empiricism
  • Be more organic in your patterns of thought, from politics to psychology
  • Read up on Philosophy of Science, chew on those ideas
  • Be more willing to admit that things you have committed yourself to neither uniquely link to each other nor agree with each other on all levels
  • Substance and ideals are more important than terms
  • Social ties with professors and other academes are to be prized provided said people are not of the savant sort
  • Dad was right about how loyalty to employers is unwise given that they'd fire you in a moment if it made business sense - you took awhile to accept this and felt bad unnecessarily
  • If you're interested in someone, even if they're not single at the time you should find some way to let them know and then never press the issue if inappropriate. They might eventually think of you if/when they're single again, while at the same time you don't stomp on what exists.
  • Don't feel so guilty about things
  • Life is not about money, and social status is much more complicated than you think. Believe in a conception of the public good, and make that at least one of your guiding stars in life.
  • Distrust businessmen (not the does-what-they-say trust, but the can-be-trusted-to-do-what-is-good-for-society-or-people-around-them kind of trust)
  • Don't own a car
  • You're missing out on a lot of good music - broaden your horizons quickly

It's funny how different two ways of leaving someone or someplace can be, emotionally, while amounting to largely the same thing. If one steps out and stays a bit somewhere else, one gets a kind of inertia there while not feeling particularly distant to the past, and years can go by in that state. When one leaves with some finality, things change at the same rate, but what was is marked differently in one's head - "person I used to love", "place I once lived", etc. Two types of goodbye, really. Maybe there's more. It's probably a mistake to do the second while at the same time thinking "I'll be back here", or similar. The past as a set of closed doors versus distant ones..

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[amused that person B would be warm to an unrecognized person]


<< Do autistics fail turing tests? >>

I suspect not.
I agree with a lot of this. But...

"but also still has that really irritating mentally ill girl."
Didn't you not believe in mental illness, or something?
The nuances of how I understand mental illness don't prevent me from finding some kinds of mental illness highly irritating. I don't necessarily blame the mentally ill for behaviour (depending on specifics), and I want them to have treatment and other assistance to help them live a healthy and happy life, as appropriate for the specifics, but that doesn't mean I want to be around some of these things.
Have publicly-funded treatment available, I mean.